age doesn't matter..maturity does :)

No book review, no personal hatred, and no poems..

This time, i'm going to tell you a story of someone else's story of love :)

i happen to have a friend who wants to court a girl whose 4yrs younger than him

he asked for an advise and as his friend, i gave him advises which i think are right :)

ok, it's like this..he is 21 and the girl is just 17..yes..a minor =)) .. but it doesn't matter nowadays..

the point is..the girl is too young..and i know that a girl in that age is way too immature

for a guy whose age is 21..right?..right...

the guy already experienced how to earn money and is at his 2nd course right now..

and the girl, most probably, just graduated from high school 

and is currently still absorbing whatever is with her college life..

still doesn't makes sense? ok, here's the deal.. 

how could a 17yr old kid understand such reality

if she's still not in the process of "looking-deep-into-what's-life-is-up-to" ?? 

if the guy is looking for a serious relationship,why choose a kid??

i mean, i don't see the point of courting someone 

just because you think you are compatible with her..

compatibility has never been an issue in relationships..

maturity does..

anyone can dance to any kind of music..

meaning,anyone could adjust to the attitude of someone

for the sake of "getting-along-with"..but maturity??

it's really hard to achieve such thing..

certainly, the "age-doesn't-matter" thingy won't work out this time around..

though science explained that girls do mature faster than boys,

in a situation like this, 

i don't think the level of maturity will be seen to the girl 

just in case he will pursue the courtship thingy..

it's not that i'm against to his happiness..

but based on what i've seen in reality, 

if the guy is already in his 20's, and the girl is still at her "teenage" life,

neither serious nor stable relationship will work out..

but if both are already in their 20's ,, things will be just a piece of cake

for them to let their relationship work out and make it till forever..

well anyone who wanted to have a partner could bravely say that they are ready for a serious relationship..

but one will realize that he/she could really not stand it yet whatever that had been said..

i'm speaking for neither side..as for the guy, well he's my friend 

and i don't want him to be hurt and be disappointed.

.as for the girl, on behalf of a girl's feeling, 

i don't want her to expect more of the "fairytale" side of her love story..

i'm not showing bitterness here..

i'm just saying that not all we think could work out will really happen in reality..

it's really hard to balance the time that you have to allot for your partner

and to the things that you are also committed to..

relationship is not just about love and how you treat your partner,

it's how you value and balance all your commitments in life..

having a partner is a commitment, studying is a commitment, 

having a job is a commitment, having time for your self is a commitment..

one should learn how to balance these..

and failing to do so could lead to disappointments..

disappointment from your partner, to your grades at school, to your performance at work; 

and if worse comes to worst, tendency is you'll never learn how to value your self anymore..

but that was just to exaggerate things out :))

the reason why i have a lot to say for this kind of relationship is that, 

i've seen different couples whom ended their stories just because one couldn't act at their age..

"maturity" often speaks out the rest of their stories that had been left unspoken..

age doesn't determine the maturity of one person..

it's really hard to find a partner who's mature enough to understand their partner 

and who could think positively to every situation that may come up to..

well, knowing that he's optimistic with his situation, 

maybe he's ready to accept everything that's waiting in the future

just in case everything will be pushed through..

it's all him this time around anyways.. :)

Five Lessons in the book "The Five People You Meet in Heaven"

I got the chance to read this great book of Mitch Albom..my office mate, Mau Gamboa let me borrow his book..good thing he gave me the opportunity to borrow the book which happens to be a gift for him by his friend..anyways, this book has five lessons in every person that was met  by Eddie (the one who died and was able to meet the five persons whom had a connection to him while he is still living on earth).

First Lesson from the First Person:

Eddie first met the blue man who told his story on how he became a member of the freak show. He told Eddie how he died: It was when the blue man borrowed his friend's car to practice driving when A kid's baseball bounced at the street and run after it. The blue man tried to slam his break and to control the car but he bumped into a truck when he tried to stop the car from bumping to the kid.

On the first chapter of the book, Eddie is attending a funeral in which he doesn't even know whom they're attending to and felt that it was unfair to attend a funeral instead of celebrating his birthday. After hearing the blue man's story, he then realized that he was the one who killed the blue man. He was the kid that the blue man avoided to get hit

"Fairness does not govern life and death. If it did, no good person would ever die young."

"Strangers, are just family you have yet to know."

"No life is a waste. the only time we waste is the time we spend thinking we are alone."

 "There are no random acts. We are all connected, that you can no more separate a breeze from the wind."

Second Lesson from the Second Person:


The second person that Eddie met was their Captain during the World War II. Eddie joined the military during his younger days. When they were deployed in the Philippines, something happened which changed his life. Eddie, together with their Captain and four other soldiers, were taken as prisoners. They were kept in bamboo barracks and barely fed.

One morning their captors lead them into a coal mine. They were forced to strip coal to help the enemy's war effort. A few months later one of the prisoners, Rabozzo, developed a severe sickness and was unable to work. One of the captures shot him in the head, in front of Eddie and the rest of the prisoners. Three weeks later Eddie found one of the captors, Crazy Three, trying to juggle rocks. Since Eddie knew how to juggle, he decided to create a diversion for the prisoners to escape. He juggled for Crazy Three who then called in the other captors to watch. Eddie captured their attention with his juggling and then began to throw the rocks into the faces of the captors. Eddie and the other prisoners were successful at killing the four guards, enabling them to escape. Right after Eddie and the remaining prisoners escape, they steal the enemies’ weapons and decide to destroy the prison they had lived in for almost half a year. As the hut went up in flames Eddie thought he saw an innocent child crawl into the hut. He ran in after it, caught on fire and was shot in the leg. His buddies rolled him around in the dirt until he was no longer on fire. He then remembers being carted away in a transport vehicle.

The Captain tells Eddie that it was he who shot him. He did not want Eddie to burn to death and he knew Eddie would hurt him if he tried to get him out of the hut. Eddie is furious at the Captain for ruining the rest of his life; he beats him furiously, not harming him. Eddie then learns that the Captain died later that night trying to secure a path for the vehicle containing Eddie and the two other soldiers.
Eddie then learns that the Captain had died that evening trying to help with their escape. He got out of the vehicle to make sure the path was clear and safe; however, he stepped on a land mine, which exploded right under him.

Eddie begun to understand the Captain's meaning of "sacrifice" and forgives the Captain for shooting him.

"Time is not what you think. Dying? Not the end of everything. We think it is. But what happens on earth is only the beginning."


"Sometimes, when you sacrifice something precious, you're not really losing it. You're just passing it on to someone else."

Third Lesson from the Third Person:

The third person that Eddie met was Ruby. When Eddie saw Ruby, he has no idea who she was and what is her connection to Eddie's life on earth. For such reason, the woman leads him away and tells her story of how she met her husband, their courtship and how he built an amusement park for her. The old woman is named Ruby, “Ruby Pier’s” namesake.

Ruby tells Eddie of a terrible fire that broke out on the pier one evening. Her husband, Emile, heard of the fire and ran down to the pier; he tried to put out some of the fire and a column collapsed on him, which changed their lives forever. They lost the pier, his fortune and his health. They ended up moving away from the pier so Ruby could tend to her wounded husband. Ruby tells Eddie that she had one wish and it was that Emile had never built the pier. Eddie now sees that he is not the only one who regretted the pier ever being built.

After the death of Eddie's father, he secretly cursed him, for how he had treated Eddie and how Eddie was forced to take over his job at the pier. After Eddie had taken over his father's job, he and Marguerite moved back into his mother's apartment building to take care of her; for after his father's death, his mother was mentally unstable. Eddie hated his father because he was the reason Eddie never escaped Ruby Pier, which he had been trying to do his entire life. 

Ruby shows Eddie a horrifying scene involving Mickey Shea, his father, and mother. Eddie learns that his father died because of loyalty. Mickey Shea was drunk and hurting Eddie's mother. His father's initial reaction was to kill Mickey; however, when Mickey fell into the ocean Eddie's father jumped in after him and saved his life. It was because of this night that Eddie's father caught the pneumonia that later killed him.
Eddie then realized that he got no right to hate his father and curse his death. His father tried to save his mother, for this reason he got ill which lead to his death.

"Holding anger is a poison. It eats you from inside. We think that hating is a weapon that attack the person who harmed us. But hatred is a curved blade. And the harm we do, we do to ourselves."

Fourth Lesson from the Fourth Person:

The person that he met was Marguerite, his wife. When Ruby vanished, he was able to enter different rooms. Each room he enter has a wedding celebration, and different reception depending on the culture. Then he met a teenage girl, whom he knew was Marguerite. He right then that it was his wife during her younger years.

When his wife died, he hated her for leaving him alone, since they weren't able have to have a child. When they started to talk, Eddie told Marguerite how unfair she is for leaving him. But she explains to Eddie and let him realize the importance of their love for each other, and that the love they have is unconditional and will never end.

"People say that they 'find' love, as if it were an object hidden by rock. But love takes many forms, and it is never the same for any for any man and woman. what people find then is a certain love. A grateful love, a deep but quiet love, above all else,  was irreplaceable."

"Lost love is still love. It takes a different, that's all.You can't see their smile or bring them food or tousle their hair or move them around a dance floor. But when those senses weaken, another heightens. Memory. Memory becomes your partner. You nurture it. You hold it. You dance with it. Life has to end, but love doesn't"

The Fifth Lesson from the Last Person:

Eddie wonders who could be the last person that he will meet. He thought that it will be God. But he thought it wrong. He met a kid instead.

After the war and being a prisoner, Eddie is having a frequent nightmare of what had happened during that night, and swore he saw a kid crawling in the fire from the burning camp. But since he was shot that brought him down to his knees, he wasn't able to save the kid from the camp.


Eddie finds himself in a purely white and silent setting. He hears a horrifying noise and notices that he is clenching his cane; his body is old and in pain just as it was before he died. The white setting disappears and turns into a river where children are happily playing. Eddie sees a young girl motioning for him to come to her. As he got to the girl's place, the little girl told him that her name is 'Tala'. She is an Asian girl, a kid from the Philippines. Eddie wonders deeply what then is the kid's connection to his life. The kid started to a story, the story of how she died.


Tala, is the kid that Eddie saw from the burning camp. He couldn't gather all the strength of how he he will say all the words that he wanted to say. He felt like he is the one who killed the poor kid. He took her right to live. But the little kid let him realized that what happened that night is connected to what will happen in the future. Tala made him realized that the reason for him o live in Ruby Pier is to give happiness to all the children by securing their safety in all the rides in the amusement park. And that the time he spend in Ruby Pier, which he hated for all his life, is not being wasted for he secured the safety of the kids that are almost at Tala's same age. It was the reason of his living, the reason that he has been waiting to be answered when he is still living spending time at the amusement park.

"Each affects the other and the other affects the next, and the world is full of stories, but the stories are all one."

This book has an extraordinary story which gave me goosebumps specially with the last person that Eddie met in heaven. The story in this book will let its reader realize the importance of each situations that we encounter in our life. That life has its different stories, but each story connects to the other, and has something to do to the next.

How to Make Paper Roses..with Love :)

she's one of the reason why i still know how to fight for myself :)
after four years of not seeing each other, everything is still the same..
she's still the Irish Joy Martos that i've met 7years ago..
she still makes me laugh..she still knows what makes my day..
and i still love her..more than she ever knew :)

things will never get better without her presence..

things get better because of her humor and understanding
things will be seen in different ways because of how she sees it,
and things will never be the same again without her by my side :)

peculiar..

i'm having this peculiar feeling..
i don't know if it is just me,,
or if there is something that's been going on,
that i'm really not aware of..

maybe it's because of the homily?
maybe it's because of the books i'm reading?
maybe it's because of the things that i miss of doing?
or maybe i'm just looking for something?
or should i say..
maybe i'm looking and wanting some more?

human has never been contented..
wanting more is the absence of contentment in life..
i know it's too bad to ask for more..
but what if i just can't seek my true happiness right now?
or what if my happiness will never be found
in the things that i'm doing right now?

but things seem to flow just right, as of now..
there must be a more challenging task waiting for me
at my work..better for me to wait for it :)

thorn beneath the waves

there are things that you thought to be "just fine"

until it reaches the point that you'll be saying "wait..that is way too much honey"

when you're the type of person

who's just still smiling inspite of every anger..

tendency when you reach your boiling point?

you'll just cry because of too much anger,

and could say everything that makes your head blown up...

the people that surrounds you will eventually make you insane..

some makes you act like crazy..

some makes you laugh the whole day..

some makes you cry..

some makes you angry..

and some makes you realize whom to trust

and who deserves your company..

but at the end of the day..

your family and true friends will basically stand with you..

will tell what is the problem..

and what is your fault..

advices what you must do

and what you must not do

to avoid conflicts..

but then again..

you will come to a point that..

to everything that had happened..

you will be thinking for its reasons..

is it for you to know whom to trust?

is it for you to realize your faults?

is it for you to know how to control your emotions?

is it for you to know how to give respect?

or is it for you to realize that..

not every person could understand you..

that not all of the peole you know do have the same level of thinking

as to what you think and expect that they have..

too many questions for the few answers obtainable..

but there's only one way that could make the commotion stop..

you just have to keep your mouth shut....AGAiN and AGAiN..

just let other people do the talking..

they will get tired anyways.. :)