age doesn't matter..maturity does :)

No book review, no personal hatred, and no poems..

This time, i'm going to tell you a story of someone else's story of love :)

i happen to have a friend who wants to court a girl whose 4yrs younger than him

he asked for an advise and as his friend, i gave him advises which i think are right :)

ok, it's like this..he is 21 and the girl is just 17..yes..a minor =)) .. but it doesn't matter nowadays..

the point is..the girl is too young..and i know that a girl in that age is way too immature

for a guy whose age is 21..right?..right...

the guy already experienced how to earn money and is at his 2nd course right now..

and the girl, most probably, just graduated from high school 

and is currently still absorbing whatever is with her college life..

still doesn't makes sense? ok, here's the deal.. 

how could a 17yr old kid understand such reality

if she's still not in the process of "looking-deep-into-what's-life-is-up-to" ?? 

if the guy is looking for a serious relationship,why choose a kid??

i mean, i don't see the point of courting someone 

just because you think you are compatible with her..

compatibility has never been an issue in relationships..

maturity does..

anyone can dance to any kind of music..

meaning,anyone could adjust to the attitude of someone

for the sake of "getting-along-with"..but maturity??

it's really hard to achieve such thing..

certainly, the "age-doesn't-matter" thingy won't work out this time around..

though science explained that girls do mature faster than boys,

in a situation like this, 

i don't think the level of maturity will be seen to the girl 

just in case he will pursue the courtship thingy..

it's not that i'm against to his happiness..

but based on what i've seen in reality, 

if the guy is already in his 20's, and the girl is still at her "teenage" life,

neither serious nor stable relationship will work out..

but if both are already in their 20's ,, things will be just a piece of cake

for them to let their relationship work out and make it till forever..

well anyone who wanted to have a partner could bravely say that they are ready for a serious relationship..

but one will realize that he/she could really not stand it yet whatever that had been said..

i'm speaking for neither side..as for the guy, well he's my friend 

and i don't want him to be hurt and be disappointed.

.as for the girl, on behalf of a girl's feeling, 

i don't want her to expect more of the "fairytale" side of her love story..

i'm not showing bitterness here..

i'm just saying that not all we think could work out will really happen in reality..

it's really hard to balance the time that you have to allot for your partner

and to the things that you are also committed to..

relationship is not just about love and how you treat your partner,

it's how you value and balance all your commitments in life..

having a partner is a commitment, studying is a commitment, 

having a job is a commitment, having time for your self is a commitment..

one should learn how to balance these..

and failing to do so could lead to disappointments..

disappointment from your partner, to your grades at school, to your performance at work; 

and if worse comes to worst, tendency is you'll never learn how to value your self anymore..

but that was just to exaggerate things out :))

the reason why i have a lot to say for this kind of relationship is that, 

i've seen different couples whom ended their stories just because one couldn't act at their age..

"maturity" often speaks out the rest of their stories that had been left unspoken..

age doesn't determine the maturity of one person..

it's really hard to find a partner who's mature enough to understand their partner 

and who could think positively to every situation that may come up to..

well, knowing that he's optimistic with his situation, 

maybe he's ready to accept everything that's waiting in the future

just in case everything will be pushed through..

it's all him this time around anyways.. :)